Think of someone you are very close to?  Now think about what you are willing to do to maintain that close intimacy?  If we are genuine about those feelings, there is no point to which we wouldn’t humble ourselves, to keep that relationship what it is?  In other words, we prove our desire for intimacy, by what we don’t allow to block our hearts!

In the context of this passage, the Psalmist refuses to allow sin in his heart, to block him from intimacy with God.  So in order not to be deceptive to God (or others), he can’t keep silent of the sin blocking his heart.  He realizes that his “groaning” came from pretending as if everything is “ok” when it isn’t…

This doesn’t mean that everything has to be confessed to people, because God is the one who changes the heart.  But it does mean, that in order to not live a deceptive life with ourselves and others, we must live confessing our sin.  It proves we are not “hiding from God” like Adam and Eve, and that we trust Christ to forgive us, so we don’t need to hide and deceive!

When we think we are close to God or anyone, and don’t address what could be straining the relationship, we’re not humble enough to be honest.  The first thing that causes a person to address issues in any relationship is humility, and then honesty.  Our pride justifies and validates the issues, even if they are damaging to the relationship.  But humility looks to confess with honesty, finding peace in the truth and forgiveness of Jesus Christ.

In other words, we value the relationship too much to be deceitful in it.