Psalm 4:4-5–Be angry, and do not sin; ponder in your own hearts on your beds, and be silent. Selah 5 Offer right sacrifices, and put your trust in the Lord.

I had the opportunity to meet with someone yesterday, and they reminded me why patience must have an expected end.  Because growing up as an unbeliever, I thought what is the point of waiting?  I had no faith to trust God, that it doesn’t always takes my reaction to deal with a situation, how exhausting that was!  Most of the time it took patience, and a trust to consider how God wanted me to handle things…(Romans 8:25)
The individual I met with kept recalling the same situation, and had come to the same conclusion each time.  They pondered the offense constantly, and had “nowhere to go with it”.  So you could tell that their emotions began to negatively escalate, the more they “pondered” without any faith in God, and an expected end for good…(Hebrews 6:12)
The Psalmist is giving great wisdom and hope for believers.  That when a situation causes us to be angry, the natural reaction is to dwell on the offense.  Which escalates our anger, and leads to sin, that’s played out in numerous ways.  But faith will cause the offense to lead us to God, and “be silent” to hear His alternative to handling the situation.  Or in other words, “offer right sacrifices”…
When we don’t seek God, it is much more difficult to humble ourselves to listen to godly advice, on ways to handle the situation.  So we live offended, rehearsing the pain because we ponder in our own minds.  So the “sacrifices” we yield from our pride is bitterness, hatred, and abuse of all kinds. (Proverbs 19:20,Ephesians 4:31-32) 
It’s no wonder that true patience takes faith.  Because in unbelief, to have “patience” may just mean, I never address the issue, and hold it as one of the many offenses I’ve incurred.  But sooner or later it comes out, and we sin from that anger inside.  Fight to find “quality time” with the Lord, that you take what offends you to God. He makes patience possible, because He can give us the strength to forgive, and the peace that passes all understanding. (Philippians 4:7, Colossians 3:15)
In His Love, Ld