Mark 2:27-28–And he said to them, “The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.  28 So the Son of Man is lord even of the Sabbath.”
If you were to compare the difference between rigid stubborn people with “fluid” or considerate people, you would find that stubborn people don’t preserve relationships as well as “fluid” or considerate people.  The unwillingness to consider our ways, personality, and treatment of people, keeps them from benefiting from who we can be as servants of them, which repels instead of attracts. (1 Peter 3:4)
The point is that when we live in our stubborn ways, we shrink our capacity to serve, instead we look to be served, by making people “put up” with our refusal to grow.  Also when we live resistant to change, we have no way of wanting to serve different kinds of people.  We live holding onto dogmas and ways that shut out those who don’t do according to us.  In terms of being a Christian and having such a mentality, we live as lord, not subjected to anyone changing anything about us…(2 Corinthians 3:17-18)

This was the issue with the Pharisees, who began questioning the way Jesus was disturbing their dogmas.  Jesus then shares a valuable principle with them in being “fluid” to move with what God was revealing.  The reason is because the Spirit is there for glorifying Jesus, not to accommodate my refusal to change. Walking in the Spirit keeps me from creating something to stand for, that God is challenging to change my mind about. (Galatians 5:16-17)
Nothing provokes us to be “fluid” or considerate, than being in relationships that we genuinely care about.  The indictment against Israel throughout the Bible, was their stubbornness, which grieved God’s heart because He loved them and wanted to be “one” with them.  We lose the heart of people we love, because instead of seeing our need to grow continuously, we treat our personality or image as something we should serve, and make others serve it as well!
The problem with that, is that we don’t appreciate the other person and who they are, as we demand them to conform to our ways.  The Pharisees criticized the disciples for plucking grain on the Sabbath, but God made the Sabbath for man, because He is the point!  The Pharisees weren’t “fluid” nor did they care about God or serving, they just wanted people to conform to them.  Challenge yourself to see if you are stubbornly holding onto things, that keep you from relating and serving people in the Spirit of God’s love? (Galatians 6:12-16)
In His Love, Ld