Job 5:17-18–“Behold, blessed is the one whom God reproves;
therefore despise not the discipline of the Almighty.
18 For he wounds, but he binds up;
he shatters, but his hands heal.
One of the greatest opportunities to take advantage of as a parent is to develop trust with our children.  I learned from living with my mother that her “being great” was not something that even “crossed my mind” as a kid.  But her consistency has stayed with me all my life.  Because once you lay the foundation of trust, discipline and “wounding” are not seen as traumatic, but helpful and eventually loving!
I believe one of the reasons discipline is “taboo” to many people is because somewhere trust was broken and never re-established.  So it’s hard to trust someone whose motives you are not sure of, when being reproved or disciplined. But if that person has established a foundation of trust, when discipline or “wounding” does take place, their reaction is usually not revolt but self-examination.
Thankfully I’ve noticed that when I discipline my children, they usually respond some time after with some form of self-examination.  Because they trust me, and see that I’m not out of control, and exploding my emotions onto them.  Because the goal of them getting disciplined I want to be out of love, not just my frustration.  A lack of self-control leaves a child guessing, and not confident that they are being disciplined for their behavior.  But rather being disciplined for our lack of self-control, which makes it hard to trust.
Now if by God’s grace an extremely flawed parent can establish trust with their child, how much more should God have our trust, when we are wounded by Him?  Being wounded hurts, but if trust in the Lord is truly established, the pain causes us to look intently into the purpose of the wound.  That God has a purpose for the wound, to get our attention as to what He is doing through it.  It is in our introspection where we usually find healing and the reason for the wounding.  Causing us to trust God even more when He disciplines.  Because we know His motive to wound is always in love, to eventually heal something only a wound could expose.
In His Love, Ld