James 4:2-3-You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask.3 You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions.
It’s no coincidence that the more quality time you spend with someone you grow closer together (hopefully).  The dangerous part about that, is that you can begin to have more of an expectation in that person than Jesus!  Which is why couples can be so sensitive towards each others words and actions, producing arguments and fights…
Of course there is nothing wrong with being in love, and having some expectations in your significant other.  But when we allow our hearts to harden, and love to fade because people do not meet our expectations, we must ask ourselves who is really the issue?
In order for people not to be our hope, we must have a greater means of joy than what the people in our life can do or don’t do.  This is why God calls us to be strengthened in our “inner man” or spirit, a growing expectation in Christ and His perfect love (Ephesians 3:16).
God wants us to alleviate the heavy burden we put on the people we love, by having our expectations and hopes not rest in what they can do for us.  It also reveals that we have replaced the true and living God of love, with an idol we can manipulate.  God yearns jealously over our spirit that we desire Him, distinguishing ourselves from making people our idols like the world…
In His Love, Ld