Proverbs 15:33-The fear of the Lord is instruction in wisdom, and humility comes before honor.

I’ve always found it helpful to continue understanding who you are at every stage in life.  Learning from parents, siblings, family members, etc. you’ve been around, helps you better understand the unique way God has made you to serve Him in Spirit and Truth…
It is possible to avoid the things we had issues with from those in our family, without understanding we carry many of the same traits.  We can see many of those traits as dishonorable and live a life trying to avoid being “like that”.  
Such a mentality generally lacks compassion and understanding, that true change from traits like that come from growing in Christ, not condemnation and will power.  So when the writer instructs us to fear the Lord from being instructed in wisdom, the only way we become truly honorable is from humbling ourselves in guidance from the Spirit. (2 Corinthians 3:16-18) 
Naturally, no matter our background we crave honor though it looks different from person to person.  Yet the natural striving for honor is rooted in pride and pride is resisted by God, therefore we do not change.  So the very thing we have disdain for we inevitably become and worse, if the fear of the Lord (humility) to be instructed is absent. (Psalm 55:19, 1 Peter 5:5, 2 Peter 2:20-22)
So instead of being reviled at some of the traits we see in ourselves and others, we should start with humbly seeking instruction from God to change.  Because honest humility to see ourselves before God, evokes the need for compassion and mercy.  Upon receiving that from the Lord, we can give it for the sake of honoring Jesus and Who He has been for us. (Matthew 5:8)
This was Jesus, not seeking His own honor and glory, but humbling Himself to the Father and Spirit, and true honor came along with it, never seeing the need to chase it. (Philippians 2:5-10)  In His Love, Ld